My take on Mother's day!

Hi all, wishing you all a belated Happy Mother's Day! How was your day, what did you do? I just returned from a weekend vacation, spent the day travelling. My kids had given me their cadeautjes (gifts) for Mothers Day a week before - a big card from lil G (which I suspect was made with a lot of help from the teacher and a message which she pretended to read) and a jewellery hanger cum flower pot from Big G {who borrowed one of my bangles for measurement purposes :)}

Personally, I am a bit undecided about celebrating these sort of special days. Consider Valentine Day for one. One day in a whole year to show your love to your loved one(s). What about the rest of the days? Work as usual, life as normal, huh? And all the noise and hype and colours and sparkle around it. And the other set of opposing and protesting noises and voices against the decadent indulgences in a single day. I admire all those  folks who take the time out and wear their reds and their hearts out, buy cards, flowers, cakes, etc, oh and post photos and make a celebration in stereotypes or otherwise inspite of it. Me, personally, I am not for exhibitionism of any kind. I don't say that is always a good thing. And since I am inclusive types I would want to include a lot of people in this, which probably would cause some conflicts of inner circle vs outer circle, friends in real life vs online...I tell you, life is complicated so this one I stay out  of totally.

Mother's day, now that's something I did not give a lot of thought before. I've been guilty for ignoring it for years now. Sometimes I would forget to call my mother and wish her, ok, I felt very awkward to do it once a year, on that day itself.  I suspect I am the irreverent and ungrateful types. I also truly began appreciating my mother 100 per cent and more only after I became one. Recently I started thinking my children don't thank me enough. I am amazed and occasionally unhappy with the sense of taken-for-grantedness they have for me. Mama, she will always be there. Mom, where is my book, or my toy?

Mothering is like a life-project  of sorts, I can't even disengage for a second, yes, not even when I'm taking a nap, or am ill. Why is this so or that like that - endless questions, arguments  trials, tantrums, gestures of spontaneous affections, cuddles, the passing of the seasons, the sense of accomplishment on each side after having mastered a small skill - potty training, reading, learning to colour within the lines, not biting nails, co-operating to eating healthy.......... And the daily strifes and battle of wills and personalities fought on behaviour, gratitude, being good people, manners, values, sharing and caring, take your pick! I seem to have lost myself somewhere in the quasi role of a People manager cum circus-trainer cum Mother in the quest  for producing two model citizens for tomorrow:)

Our karma clock starts ticking from the minute one is born in this world. Mother or child, we all have our parts to play. It can get exciting when three generations meet - my mother, me and my daughters. Yes, I  have to play a dual role - mother and child at the same time. A lot of fun too. It's like seeing a mirror or into the crystal ball. I still think each day is important. Thank God for your Mother each day. Tell her you love her any day or every day, why wait for one particular day. I don't think gifts or the lack of them would be a deal maker or breaker in this relation. I always read more into gestures and actions. But these are my thoughts only. Again, not specifically on Mother's day, but whenever I remember, I show my gratitude for having a loving and caring mother and to two little ones who look upto me!! as one. God bless their unfailing trust in me.

Here are some posts I read on Mother's day and liked them - MomwithaDot's blog and the series of odes to Mothers on IndianMomsConnect here .