Reaching out...feel like a talk?

Thoughts in this post can be rambling and mixed  up. For someone who is quiet and introvert-ish I often surprise myself with my need for being connected to people. I use the term 'people' very loosely here, it just means others.....Not that I am an overtly curious sort, wanting to know what everybody is upto, its just that conversations and exchanges, besides their basic purpose, also impart a feel-good factor for me. Something I took for granted when I was in India and here when I had a phone but no friend to call on for a casual hello for a while. So I for one am pinging people or sometimes outrightly calling them... sometimes my reasons are a casual interest into their well being, or maybe the pretext of an innocuous question, or in these days of sharing over Whatsapp sharing links or info of their interest -  the never ending supply of forwards which is an enterprise in itself....but more often than not it is just my need to connect... for an exchange, a conversation ......

Social media with blogs, FB, twitter and usual suspects to connect far and wide, it is often the one to one connect that one craves for. Just for someone to listen to you. That form of attention is so hard to get and if it's a privilege that anyone accords to you what better than to reciprocate in a similar fashion. You could say that when you have a partner and kids of converseable age why would one want to seek other connects and yet we all know how we talk the same things over and over again with our partner and children...that there is no breath to spare to talk about anything else over and above it. It's bills, to-dos, homework, housework, eat healthy, study good, exams, aches and paints, i want, i need......unending, repetitive...and even then sometimes wavelenghts differ...you just got to accept it.


I never used to think much of what  my circle of connects thinks of this.... people are so seemingly content minding their business or life...content with just being and managing themselves very well...and yet it is sometimes my own sixth sense that senses loneliness or need to connect and my efforts to reach out are reciprocated. I am also one of those boring reliable people who call you back when they tell you they will. So much so that it takes people by surprise.... why call when you can hide behind a whatsapp exchanges, or insta likes....

Again an old post being aired as it was not going anywhere, treat this as a soliliquy if you will.

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