So.....what now?

This happens at times. Oh, so both your kids go to school? How nice! And then what do you do? Well, umm, shrug, I answer, rather shamefacedly, nothing much, the usual. But surely you have all the time in the world now? Yes, I have about 6 hours of kids gone to school, actually make it 5 for myself as the hubby leaves a bit  later. Have you figured out what you want to do for yourself? A BIG NO!!!

They don't stop. Not yet. If I were you, I would do X, Y and Z. That is nice, I say. Really, you must do something. Are you looking for a job. Umm, not actively no! Really, then what is it you do! Again, I say, nothing! And I am rather ashamed to say it.

I really do not know the answers to what now. Very often, things don't turn out as I plan or want them to. I don't want to just study something for the sake of studying. If I do, it must be something I am interested in and which would help me professionally. And it requires dedication, time and money. Right now, I don't have all 3 in the right ratio, so cross it out.

I have not had much success in  finding work here, work that I would like to do, not even a mere job. Right now, things are pretty convenient for everyone because I am at home. Make it 3 people who have to leave home at 8, husband not included here as he can plan his day pretty much how he wants and I can foresee a crazy life. I don't want my kids to remain at school till 6 pm or so when I would go back to pick them up. As it is, I think my little one is too little to go to school full time. I want to be able to drive myself before I work. I know, it seems a crazy requirement but is much required for my situation.

We don't know our plans for length of stay here, possibly till the husband feels he would have achieved some professional milestone. Which only he can decide. We are considering an English schooling for Big G from the next school session so she is good at one of the 3 languages she will have to learn at school in India.   International schooling is a business and a pretty expensive one at that. Everything is tentative and in a flux. Life has been for the last 5 years or so. We live with one year extensions.

So no big changes happening now with me. I will do some small inconsequential stuff - finish my French level, take up a Dutch language course, do my swimming, etc, parenting, cooking,  plan a vacation, blog more regularly. Nothing that will rock the boat. But stuff that will keep me reasonably occupied. And try to be content with all of this too.





Comments

  1. Uma22 March 2012 at 17:15

    I truly understand what you say. It is not always necessary to be doing something that pays you monetarily to qualify yourself as being a productive person.
    Gah! to all those buggers who have nothing better in life than to pull down people.
    Doesn't anyone has a basic choice in life to live life as one wishes/plans or just plain do the best in any given circumstance???
    This topic has always touched a raw nerve in me. Something I had written in the early days of blogging:
    http://mymaidenattempt.blogspot.in/2011/02/choice-to-be.html

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  2. Chatty Wren21 April 2014 at 09:51

    Hey sorry Uma, I am seeing your comment only today! I will check out your post. Yes, I think I did the best in my set of circumstances and tomorrow if it all changes, that's fine too.

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