Passing thoughts ........

Last week, we did it! Overcame inertia and a lot of other unending dithering decision-making on a much needed sofa and have placed an order for one. Yes, our first sofa! Will take one month to be delivered, a- la -style- Belgique. Back in B'bay, we just had enough to pay for a down payment for our flat. We had a bed, cupboards and after a lot of debate acquired a dining table (impulse buy for Diwali), but just could not make up our mind on a sofa. Two mattresses and an assortment of cushions, that's it. Here, when I had landed, my husband had already got a 2nd hand sofa for the short stay we had in mind. Our stay has outlived the sofa, it is beyond care, upkeep and we keep it covered with a throw to hide its inner beauty. In fact, we've been postponing our entertaining because of it and so all other reasons notwithstanding have a new one:)

Makes me realize just how restricted ones gets (or not) when one is not sure how long you will stay in a place. I need to buy a few bowls too next time I visit IKEA.Using ones I got 5 years ago - still holding on to one chipped one! I have sun-bleached curtains of an uncertain colour. I need to stop buying coriander in bulk in the Indian store.  Have started using watercress and kale a bit now. I ought to adapt to living here 100 per cent, not thinking of the temporariness of our stay here. Quite ridiculous, like holding your breath for a while under water. There is always this weird rationalizing that I am prone to do - that which makes me choose between what I want and need to do/have/need/learn.

I know my cousins - born and brought up and still living in the same place. They know everybody, everything about their place and are so seemingly rooted. Yes, I would love to be like a tree and branch out. I know this sounds so contrary to what most  people do these days - globe trotting, expating, immigrating. Even back in India, I have stayed in a few states, and never in my home state, and I always felt that I don't belong anyplace in particular. Sometimes, I wonder why is there such a strong need to belong? In a world so shrunken because of skills, opportunities, technology, this need is surely so retro.

What am I resisting, I do not know. I am surely not making too many plans because I know from experience that nothing turns out the way you want it, exactly so. So, it's back to one day at a time, living in the now and      waiting for the sofa.

Also grounded for the next 2 weeks with kids having Easter holidays. Will write as regularly and disjointedly as I can.




Comments

  1. Uma3 April 2012 at 07:27

    grass is always greener on the other side, isn't it? I have wanted to travel around the world but not sure if I'd like it if I were uprooted each time I was close to settling down at one place..
    so I quite get you when you say you want to belong to one single place..
    How's Belgium as a place? do you have any friends around? It can get difficult and lonely in a foreign country..do blog as often as you can..the virtual world can sometimes be your companion:-)

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  2. Chatty Wren3 April 2012 at 21:59

    Yes, Uma, totally agree! I am sure I would be as vocal in cribbing about my situation if I were in one place. Which just means I am a habitual cribber :) Belgium is a nice enough place, though there are people who have seen/lived in other countries like Germany, Netherlands, Swiss, etc who may think otherwise. To each his own! Yes, I do have some friends/acquaintances - enough to get by.

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