Love story, which version


Theirs was a love marriage, based on the bastion of a sweet unexpected friendship.

They fell in love at different times........who and when would be telling but that is one reason why everytime each of them recounts their story it seems different, even to the other partner.

It took a small while but both sets of parents were convinced by their mutual adoration and commitment to the relationship.

They did have different definitions of love - after all it's only a word and interpretations can be on different levels. Hers began with a shy tender love, which came with a strong dose of duty and responsibility. She still does not know exactly what his is/was to begin with- but could deduce it had humour and openness and sensuality........

Love changes all and everything changes love................

The first couple of years was almost like a rerun of Mission Impossible - was this a glimpse of what life was to be?

Love is like wine - sometimes best left to mature in the cellar. Life took them on, and they took small sips of the potent wine to savour and strengthen the fondness they had for each other and soldier on hand in hand.

Some times were tough,  some incidents which you cringe to remember.......but you have to be in it  together for good times and the bad. It also reinforces the reason why every year together is indeed a reason to celebrate.

The arrival of the kids, new roles, new experiences - adds to quantum of love.

The pillow-talk is even more soft and wonderful when you talk about your proud creations...........snoring and dreaming away in the soft lamplight.......chasing dreams and smiling at the fairies............

Love is a wonderful emotion. And I do think that children, work, other responsibilities can take away the ardor in a relationship, unless one keeps working on it. Once in a while, it is important to take a walk together, watch the sunrise together, to be together yet be quiet together, small simple everyday things like drinking the first cup of tea together?  How do you take time out to nurture your love?














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  1. Aparna29 January 2013 at 17:33

    So beautifully written!!! I have to say we have been bad at nurturing our relationship over the last few years, the kids have taken up most of our mindspace. Only last year I insisted we do a holiday (just the two of us) every year. To be honest, I was a little anxious -- what if we did not have anything to talk about without the kids to occupy us???? Fortunately my anxiety was misplaced but confirmed the need to nurture our relationship even more. The one thing we always do is give each other a detailed rundown of our respective days. Most of the time we are in different cities during the week so its even more important. Wat we ate, what we are wearing - the little things are important.

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    1. Chatty Wren30 January 2013 at 07:17

      Thanks Aparna. I think it happens in most nuclear families with young kids. For us it's the same too. You are right, communication is the key and the little things are v. important. Keeps us synced in with the other. We always find time to about the kids, but spending time together just too difficult unless one counts staying up to watch movies or even read together:)

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  2. Anonymous29 January 2013 at 19:07

    can't agree more.. we definitely need to work on keeping the relationship up and well.. that gives us the confidence to manage rest of the things of life effectively..

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  3. Unknown30 January 2013 at 02:58

    Early Valentines Day edition huh ? :) Quiet times are beyond me (LOL!) So..... I'll say they are overrated :p

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    1. Chatty Wren30 January 2013 at 07:19

      He he, Valentine did not even occur to me! Well, I can imagine quiet times are not easy to come by when one has young children!

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  4. Anonymous30 January 2013 at 08:23

    Beautiful! Love such realistic love stories. :) Is it your story? :D Was it your anniversary yesterday? :D Come on, tell tell. :)

    Yes,I agree with you that the stresses of everyday life can take away the romance from a marriage or any relationship, for that matter. What we do to nurture our love is:

    Catch a TV show together - there is a travel show we both love watching
    Just do nothing but snuggle up together once in a while
    Sending occasional cute SMSes or e-mails
    Having breakfast/tea/dinner together as much as possible
    Giving small surprises to each other occasionally, like a bag of fruit that one loves or a specially-cooked dish
    Going for a walk together

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    1. Chatty Wren30 January 2013 at 13:25

      Yes it is TGND and no the post was inspired not by any anniversary or such, but would you believe it - a tiff!! How sweet of you to share what you do, it's a lot of stuff you do together! Wish you a lot of happiness and togetherness!

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  5. Uma30 January 2013 at 13:08

    Wow! so nicely put! I can't agree more about the need to spend some couple time..and when it gets difficult because of kids, it becomes even more important. I get really cranky if a few days pass by without me and the hubby hardly getting to say a word to each other or sit down in peace..I need the "our" time, even if it just talking about how our day was spent. With a toddler in the house, even that much is great!

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    1. Chatty Wren30 January 2013 at 13:28

      I know Uma, the situation changes so much with kids in the picture! Even when we talk we tend to talk about them and not about us. Only yesterday we were talking about the 'us' time before kids and it seems so strange that ever there was a time like that:) A lot of times, I am trying to talk stuff to my husband - an update, some instructions, and there is always one of the kids constantly butting in for attention, gets me crazy at times.

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  6. Tharani30 January 2013 at 15:28

    Love love this post Vibha :)
    How beautifully expressed ..

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  7. pankti31 January 2013 at 11:55

    Hey, this could have been my story as well!! esp. the version being different!!!
    Every evening we have our Matti (Masti) sessions, along with Zini....
    Also whenever we get a chance, we try to have a date alone, leaving Zini in care of grand parents...

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    1. Chatty Wren31 January 2013 at 16:49

      Wow, date times, how nice!! We could do it here too with babysitters but I am not 100% comfortable with that, too much anxiety.

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  8. Anonymous31 January 2013 at 12:59

    Such a love filled post Vibha.. These simple thing actually make a relationship strong.. Like the other day I got a call from friend when me and my hubby were having our morning cup of tea together and she mentioned I miss this being her husband working on shifts.

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    1. Chatty Wren31 January 2013 at 16:50

      Thanks Jas, yes, it is the simple things that are most important, agree 100%.

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