An equal childhood?

Sorry for turning up so soon after the arduous farewell of this morning. Here is a link to my article on Parentous. I wrote on this subject because I feel it is important - for parents and children. If you are a single child, this may not apply to you. But if you have one or more siblings, you may sometimes have felt a bit of discrimination. Sometimes parents too do not realise they are being unfair on some issue or the other. I do not know if equal childhoods can be possible in the quantifiable sense at all. I feel one can only attempt to be fair and involved parents to all our children.

I'd really appreciate your views on yet another v. hastily penned article. So critical feedback, all welcome.


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  1. Anonymous31 January 2013 at 21:41

    this is one topic I am racking my brain about in recent times.. I sincerely hope that I provide equal childhood to my kids. I am more worried about the elder one as they may have to give up and will be expected to act mature on certain things.. I hope to strike a decent balance...

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    1. Chatty Wren1 February 2013 at 06:53

      True Ani, it's really great you are thinking beforehand on these lines. I am totally guilty to expecting my 2.7 year old to be mature!! And parents do tend to have this v. unrealistic expectations from first-borns, I am one, so I know. Wish you luck!

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  2. Unknown1 February 2013 at 06:06

    off to read it now!

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  3. Uma1 February 2013 at 06:13

    lovely write up, Vibha! commented there :-)

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  4. Renu1 February 2013 at 16:43

    well written. My feeling is that this equality bussiness anywhere sucks.Parents love their chidren.period.and however fair in your mind you may try to be, your children will always find you not so.in some places and they are going to ask questions..no matter what you do, this is the price of parenting one pays.
    Since children are individuals with different traits and requirements, they are treated differently, but loved all the time..specially by normal parents, yes earlier there were few who victimised daughters and spoiled sons..I hope its not prevalent today.

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    1. Chatty Wren2 February 2013 at 12:07

      Agree Renuji, lot of pressure on parents due to this equality business. You are right, mostly parents love all their children, treat them differently as per their differences which is ok. the only times when one questions this is the obvious or continuous discrimination, which is unfair!

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  5. Divya4 February 2013 at 12:21

    I really loved reading this article Vibha! I agree with you completely when you say that equal does not mean same. There is nothing like an equal childhood only because 2 children are never the same! Every child comes with his/her own bag of personality traits, interests and requirements....They want to be treated differently...After all we want to be called unique and yet expect to be treated the same?

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    1. Chatty Wren4 February 2013 at 17:32

      Thanks Divya! It is not possible to treat two different people similarly, just will not work.

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